Husband angry?

1 - Give your angry husband space.


Nothing is worse than having the one person you care about more than anyone else in the world ticked at you, but it's important for guys to have time to cool down. You can't talk your angry husband out of being mad.

When men are angry, they say things they don't mean. THEN they get angrier still because they said something mean and hurt your feelings.

If you absolutely HAVE to say something, say, "I'm sorry you're upset. I'm going to give you time to cool down, but I do care."

THEN LEAVE. Go grocery shopping. Do laundry. Hang out with your friends. Do something that takes you away, and gives your mind something to focus on because your husband's hurt feelings.

Alternatively, you can give him space by allowing him to leave and refraining from bothering him. Pestering an angry man only drives him further away.

2 - Use humor to break the ice.


Put on a comedian. Go to a funny movie. Find something to laugh about.

If you can get a guy to laugh, you're halfway to having him accept your apology. It gives him hope that there are good times to be had, and helps him remember the ones you've already shared.


3 - Apologize. No "ifs, ands, or buts".


By that I mean, offer up a real apology. "I'm sorry that I was late," not "I'm sorry I was late, but I ran into traffic," or "If you were late I wouldn't be angry," and especially no, "I'm sorry I was late, and that I didn't take your feelings into consideration. You deserve someone who is on time."

Just say, "I'm sorry I was late," and make sure you keep a better eye on the clock the next time you're supposed to pick him up.


4 - Move forward by focusing on the positives.


Experts say that good relationships have a balance of one bad event for every five or more good events. Don't bring up your past wrongs. Focus on the positives in your relationship. Work to create more of them.

Don't sacrifice the future of your relationship just to relieve your guilt. Apologize when your husband is angry, and then move on.